These questions should be familiar with you. "What do a man want in a relationship?" "Did I do something wrong?" "Why is he pulling away after we're getting close?" Because these questions are common in women who want their men to commit, but their men are somehow reluctant to do it. How to make him commit when he's pulling away? The answer is to pull him back to you first, and then make him commit afterward. But, before you do that, you need to know why he's pulling away from you. Is there anything wrong? Let's dig deeper into the psychology of your man.
10 Signs He is Pulling Away from You
There are some signs that you should notice when your man is starting to pull away from you. These signs should help you to determine whether he's trying to get out from the relationship or not. Also, with the knowledge about these signs, you should be able to figure out how to stop him from pulling away. Here are 10 signs he is pulling away:
1. He starts to refrain from the relationship. It means that he will gradually remove himself from his relationship with you.
2. He has less communication with you. He will avoid any communication with you. Less calling, less texting, etc.
3. He will give you hundreds of excuses not to meet you. Whenever you want to meet him, he will simply refuse by telling you he's busy, he's got to do something, and so on.
4. He's no longer passionate with you. Whenever you get the chance to meet him, he's simply no longer interested in you.
5. He no longer share about himself with you. Before this, you found him to be an open man. He didn't hesitate to share his problems with you. But, now it's different.
6. The romantic vibe of the relationship fades away. You don't see him making surprise for you again. You don't see him invite you to romantic places anymore.
7. You are no longer his focus. Instead, he will focus more of his time and energy on his business, his job, his project, or whatever he's interested right now, except you.
8. He doesn't smile often to you. He seems like no longer having pleasant attitude to you. Before this, he looked so happy and smile a lot when he meet you.
9. He loses focus when he's with you. Whether at the restaurant, at the mall, at the park, he seems to lose focus on you. When you're talking to them, he often ignores you.
10. He doesn't talk a lot. He simply don't care about you or what you're doing. He doesn't ask anything about you.
Those signs are common signs that he is pulling away. When you start to see those signs, then make sure to stop whatever you're doing to him right now, and start to act differently.
Why Men Pull Away from Relationship
7 Reasons Why Men Pull Away from Relationship
Why do men pull away from relationships? There are various reasons, and those are usually related with his psychological condition, what's going on in his mind. Here are 7 reasons why men pull away from relationship so that you'll understand more about what's going on in his head. Once you know the reasons, you should change your attitude toward him immediately.
1. You no longer give him admiration and respect. All men want to get a kind of admiration and respect from their partner. Your man wants you to think of him as the best man for you. He wants you to admire him in every aspect, starting from his looks to his accomplishments. He wants you to respect him as well. He wants you to listen to what he's saying and he doesn't want you to put him down in anyway.
2. You're no longer interesting to him. For instance, think about it for a moment. Do you wear the best dress when you meet him? Are you striving to look the best when he's around? Or, are you simply no longer care about how you look since he's already your relationship partner? If so, then the fault is in you. Men will seek for more interesting women if their partner can't bring them enough interest.
3. He no longer feel comfortable with you. How do you treat him? Do you treat him badly, like some kind of slave that needs to serve you day in and day out? For instance, are you demanding too much from him? If that's the case, it's only natural that he's pulling away from you.
4. You no longer in sync with him. Your man wants you to understand him and support him if necessary. When he's down and has a problem in his life, he expects you to understand the situation and encourage him to do his best to solve it. If you no longer give this understanding, he will likely want to escape from you.
5. He needs his time alone. When a man is in trouble, he will need a quality time to ponder over the solution of it. As a result, he's not going to communicate with you for a while. In this case, his pulling away from you is only a temporary withdrawal. What you need to do is to give him some time to be alone and offer your help whenever he needs it.
6. You are needy and pushy. Men don't like to be pushed by women, especially to commit to a long-term commitment. He wants to take that decision by himself. If you're needy and pushy toward him, then he will slowly but gradually (and even abruptly) disappear from your life.
7. He's angry to you, but he won't tell you about it. Something that you did to him has made him angry toward you. But, like many men, he will try to suppress his anger, and choose to withdraw instead. You should ask yourself whether you've been making him mad recently. If you did, apologize immediately. If you didn't have a clue about it, try to ask him about it.
Those reasons are what make men pull away from a relationship. Once you understand about the reasons above, I suggest you to start treating him differently. It will help you to pull him back again and make him comfortable with you.
Now, What Do a Man Want in a Relationship?
5 Things that a Man Want in a Relationship
Men want harmony in their relationship. Your man is no exception. When he sense a problem that he's no longer capable to solve, he will choose to pull away. When he experience disharmony in the relationship, he will leave you. Here are 5 basic things that a man want in relationship:
1. A man wants your attention. When you no longer give him enough attention, he will pull away.
2. A man wants your admiration. If you no longer admire him for what he's doing and what he has, he will escape.
3. A man wants your understanding. If you're insensitive to his feelings, he'll want to leave you.
4. A man wants your support. If you only demand everything to him, but showing no support at all, he will be so angry to you. He will leave.
5. A man wants you to listen to him. If you no longer listen and follow his words, then he will step away from you. A man wants to be in control because he consider himself as a leader.
How to Make a Man Want to Commit to You
When you know he's pulling away from you, what do you need to do? The first thing that you need to do is to pull him back and then make him want to commit to you. The key is to make him want to do it, not forcing him to do it. What you need to do is to understand what a man want in relationship, as explained above. Then, change your attitude to meet his expectation. If you do what he wants you to do, he really doesn't have any reason to pull back from you. So that's the way you make a man want to commit to you. At least, it's the first step.
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